Forgiving seems like the hardest of all things to do sometimes, but the truth is, that it really isn’t and it is more damaging to you if you can’t forgive because it creates triggers, blocked energy, low vibration, and anger or shame within your being. All of this triggers your fight or flight response and will affect your physical health with higher blood pressure, diabetes, chronic pain, autoimmune response, and adrenal fatigue but when you forgive and can let go, then you can become calm, have more peace within your being, less stress, less guilt and shame and you can restore good health.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t grieve because that’s part of letting go. Go ahead and cry, and scream and then sit down and try these 5 things to forgive:
- Journal Your Experience– Sit down and write how you feel, go back in your mind to that time and look at it as though you are not involved, not a part of it, and be open to what might be happening that you didn’t see at the beginning.
- Look At The Situation With Empathy- You know, we all go through times in our lives when we may be in a really bad space for whatever reason and our judgment is clouded, or we make the wrong decision or we react in a bad way to someone or something someone has said. We just never know what is happening at that time for someone. Looking at a situation from the outside with empathy and trying to understand why someone did or said what they did can help to soften, possibly, the hurt that you felt and maybe see the pain someone else might have been feeling.
- Find The Silver Lining– I know this one may not sit well with some and I know if it doesn’t it’s because there is still too much pain and hurt. Every bad thing someone does to us can have a silver lining. It is ALWAYS in our darkest times, and greatest struggles that we find our brightest light within us. The human will to survive and rise above always comes out when we are at our worst. Some may not have made the choice to rise above, but most when they hit rock bottom will find a way back to the light. You for certain will have changed, become stronger, etc. because of certain experiences. Find them.
- Feel Gratitude For Where You Stand Now– When my ex-husband became obsessive, abusive, and controlling I became very ill, lost weight, and felt fear. The strength and courage it took for me to walk away forever will remind me of how I am in control of my life. I feel grateful that I walked away and for the life, I have now because I walked away.
- Forgive Yourself And Forgive The Others– I know people and I know that there is a constant chatter in our mind that sounds like “maybe if I…. , “I should have”, etc. Maybe you didn’t have a choice, or maybe you did but whatever the situation is, forgive yourself. It’s most likely in the past now and you should never carry guilt, shame, or judgment for yourself now.
Not being able to forgive someone or yourself is one of the darkest of all energies and is also one of the most damaging to not only the soul but to your physical body. When you forgive and can move on you will experience such freedom and begin to let joy into your life again. * Photo by omar alnahi: https://www.pexels.com/photo/person-putting-palm-on-face-while-holding-prayer-beads-18494/