Most men might be surprised to learn this one thing about women.

I was talking with a friend the other day and she mentioned one thing that she missed. She responded that she can remember a time where men would ask you out on a date! Okay, I would imagine it’s “young men” that she is referring to here. She was reminiscing that men just don’t come up and say hi. I thought about this myself and do you know, I don’t think I have ever had a man approach me before. Wow, how strange. I thought about myself. I have gone up to two men that I was attracted to and gave them my card. I had the “balls” to do this because, myself, I go after what I want. So what is the problem with men?

I have been contemplating this a lot lately. Partly because I’m a single woman and I wonder if this is a chronic life long aliment or are there no men out there anymore. I’ve felt this for quite a number of years, felt that something was not quite right out there in the world. Finally I have decided that I understand the feeling now, the feeling in the pit of my stomach. It’s the same feeling I had when I was a young girl. My first school dance, boys sitting on one side looking over at the girls like “what do we do!” and the girls on the other side looking at the boys thinking “Omg, are they going to ask us to dance”.

I wonder, are men so afraid of us, of being rejected? Have women gone to far with the whole feminism movement or the whole “me too” that men are just afraid to go up to a lady and ask her out? I feel like I am sitting in that gym again at my first dance and there is this huge gap. Do people date anymore? I don’t think men take women on dates. So, here is what men should know.

Women want men to ask them out. If you see a beautiful woman walking down the street and you would love to meet her, walk up to her and tell her how beautiful she is and that you would love to take her to lunch if she is not in a relationship. what have you got to lose? Women like to be “courted” still, it’s not a bad thing to actually take the time to get to know someone. Men though, need to find their courage and step up and make that move. I find myself sad when I think about this and wonder almost on a daily basis……are there men out there?

Joanne Hughes is a Men’s Breakthrough Coach. Helping men to find their “way home”