The most searched topic on google is the death and suicide of Stephen ‘Twitch’ Boss. The world stunned by a young man that seemed to have it all, who exuded happiness and kindness and yet ended his life.
I think it always goes to show you that nobody really ever knows what one is facing in their life. Whether you are a person that to the outside world seems to have it all or you are someone that others might view as down and out is all really irrelevant.
I’m not going to try to understand, and nor should you, why he took his life. There are so many before him as well that have taken that option. So, how does someone get to that point of feeling so deeply, desperate that they never see another way out of the darkness?
I watched some videos and stories of ‘Twitch’ and saw him in this wonderful life, dancing with his wife or playing with his children. I also noticed that his face might have portrayed happiness but if you look at his eyes, there is a deep sadness in them. Was it the fact that he was in the public eye and felt he had to act or be happy all the time for people even though he suffered in pain?
There were a lot of comments on the posts of his death where people would say it was ‘selfish.’ Isn’t a comment like that though enabling a stigma to be attached to mental health by shaming or guilting someone to seek help? Does that statement help the situation here? I think that men in particular find it hard to seek help, especially if there had been any sexual abuse connected or tied to the trauma and pain.
Many that follow me as a Coach, also know that I am a ‘medium.’ I have been blessed to be able to see the souls of people’s loved ones and hear messages from them. I have, over the years, spoken or have had souls that have died by taking their own lives and I remember one young man in particular that wanted me to tell his mom that he knew he was loved and that he knew he had a good home and everything but it seemed for him, a dark cloud constantly followed him and he just was never ever able to shake this darkness that he continually felt and that it was nobody’s fault and it wasn’t because of any one thing, it just was so dark for him and he was so tired that there was no other option.
I think the most important thing that we as a society can do is to remove the stigma that is so engraved into mental health, therapy etc., and teach everyone starting in daycares and school how to meditate and change mindsets, perspectives, and that none of us are really without trauma and that it is okay to reach out and talk to someone. There is so much work around this area that needs to change but I think right now, all we can do is keep talking. When we talk about it the stigma dissipates somewhat and that at least is a start. I just thought that I would share some thoughts that I had this morning about the subject. In love and light. With All that I AM.
If you are thinking about taking your life and you want to talk to someone call/text 988 in the united states which brings you to 1.833.456.4566 for the number for the national suicide hotline. You are not alone. Photo by Nathan Cowley: https://www.pexels.com/photo/man-in-blue-and-brown-plaid-dress-shirt-touching-his-hair-897817/