I think most of us come to a place in our lives where something overcomes us, an epiphany, a moment of clarity when we see ourselves, our life, and think “what the heck am I doing here?” Am I right? I myself have had at least 3 moments in my life of major epiphanies that have literally altered my life and my path. I truly believe we all will have moments like this in our life and they are great catapults that move us in a new direction.
I took a couple of hours yesterday to have a bite to eat and disengage my mind from the constant wheel it was on of creating to watch a show on Netflix. I found instead a movie that had George Cluny in it, also it was short so I threw it on and ate. It was about a man that travels the country “letting go” of people for companies. He was on the road 325 days a year, lived out of a small one-bedroom hotel, and called the airports “home.”
A young lady started with the company. She was hired to cut the costs associated with the expenses of travel. Her solution was to meet with the clients via video instead of in person. I watched George Cuny’s facial expressions while she was speaking in front of the company. As I watched him, I found myself on the edge of my seat, my heart pounding and my chest tight. As I watched George Cluny, he was almost shaking, you could see panic rise up in him and I stopped for a moment to check myself. Why was I reacting to this news in the way that I was? I of course continued watching until the end. I have not been able to stop thinking about the movie though.
You know that moment when you just feel sick and tired of living the way you are living? The moment your heart races, your chest feels tight and you look at your life and realize that you aren’t where you want to be and you wonder how on earth you got here? That epiphany you feel and the question you ask yourself “whose life am I living?” I think many of us will come to this place in our lives. But what do you do if you wake up one morning and look at the person next to you in bed and think “what am I doing” or you are the CEO of a company and think “this is not how I expected to feel here.”
For women, we would most likely go to our friends and talk it to death but for many men, the chances are slim that they will reach out to their friends and hash it to death. Most men will deal with it on their own, fearing how they will look to their family, their friends, not wanting to disappoint, wonder if they are a failure. Am I right here? A lot of us live from a place within our past and what we were expected to do in our family to receive love or to live up to what success meant to our parents and we try to live up to that image of what we thought was success. When you have a great job, a marriage, a house, a car, trailer, etc, etc you expect to be happy and living the dream, right?
That isn’t always the case and at one point in our life, many of us will come to that moment of realization that we have not been living the life that we imagined we would or that having everything that we thought was what we wanted and we find that we feel empty and not happy at all! Now some at this point might seek out a coach or mentor to speak to, but there will be those that will feel absolutely stuck until they realize that they are not living their life in alignment with what they truly want and then those that have yet to discover what it is that they do truly want. So what then?
I myself find that I have to take a few days and really feel deep in my being what it is that feels off, or what is it that I truly want. So, I will share my realization in the movie. I think I reacted the way I did watching George Cluny shake at the thought of not traveling and living a day to day existence going to his 9-5 job and going home to his one-bedroom was that he was running by the constant travel in his work because he wasn’t fulfilled in his life and he was searching and at the end, he realized that he had been missing love, and stability. I won’t tell you the ending of the movie but I can tell you as a writer, I wasn’t very happy with the ending at all, but the movie totally got me thinking about myself.
Closing your eyes and seeing yourself in the options that you will no doubt be considering is a good exercise. Really feeling within your being when you see yourself in these different options, and if you feel expansion or constriction, if you feel panicked or happy! Writing down the good and the bad about each option and then again, really thinking about what it is you desire. I also find writing a “Mission Statement” for yourself is a good way to feel a commitment within yourself and gives you something to work towards.
Life is forever changing and evolving. Are you ready to break out? To be free to live a fulfilling and purposeful life? After all, you are entitled to feel happy, and inspired! Are you the only barrier to achieving that?
If you are going through a similar moment in your life of not feeling inspired, or purposeful, then try my 90 min discovery call! No sales pitch I promise. I will listen and together we can send you off with some things to consider and to implement into your life today, not years down the road!